The Nectary is a relational monastery, research lab, and pop-up school. We’re part of a multi-generational effort to restore our human capacity for intimacy, coordination, and interdependence with the web of life.

We’re coming to Washington, DC from March 20-May 12, 2026.

Deep relational practice

The Nectary teaches the practices that we’ve found helpful in becoming the adults our culture needs. We are leading-edge facilitators of Circling, Collective Presencing, imaginal practice, and more.

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Artisanal intelligence

We are a community of artists, meditators, cooks, writers, and builders. Join us for meals, salons, and gatherings that help us practice the art of attention and strengthen our capacity for creativity.

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Radical giving + receiving

The Nectary is an experiment in working with money in a way that’s less harmful to our ecology and our souls. We invite you to join us in strengthening our “interdependence muscle” by giving and receiving gifts — freely.

Learn how we're 'economy-ing'

Bonnitta Roy

“A group of wise people, tethered through intimacy, is the most powerful problem-solving system in the universe.”

Zak Stein

“New human potentials only manifest in the context of new forms of relationship. Can we place our individual love stories within the larger love story of the universe itself?”

The Nectary is a relational monastery, research lab, and pop-up school. We’re part of a multi-generational effort to restore our human capacity for intimacy, coordination, and interdependence with the web of life.We’re coming to Washington, DC from March 20-May 12, 2026.